People marry for a variety of reasons. They do so in the hopes of finding long-term companionship with whom they may fill their lives with love and pleasure. However, if you want to have a successful marriage, you must accept your partner for who they are. Everyone has their own set of beliefs, thought processes, ideas, and points of view. As a result, it’s only logical that no two people feel the same way. As a result, we may define marriage as the fusion of two distinct sets of beliefs and mindsets. Because of their opposing views, a couple’s approach to many life issues is likely to differ. These disparities cause marital strife, resulting in an unhappy marriage.
Marriage is difficult. With nearly anyone, you can have an excellent time. Do not marry someone until you are confident that you will have a difficult time with them. Marry someone who will be there for you in the aftermath of a tragedy, helping you clean up, pick up the pieces, and laugh with you. Marry someone who will assist you in cleaning up puke, feces, and urine (particularly if you plan to have dogs and children), and will give you a hot shower after you’re finished.
Make your house a home
Make a place for you and your partner to genuinely desire to spend time together. The importance of this was instilled in me by Danish women. You don’t want your house to feel like an office or a hotel where you and your partner are just passing through. Women buy sacks of delightfully fragrant candles and nice blankets, and they genuinely cared about creating a joyful and warm house for a new couple to escape from the outside world.
Don’t forget romance
Naturally, the French provided this advice. Keep your phone away from the dinner table, and don’t forget how much fun dressing up can be. Don’t get into the trap of spending all of your time together in your sweatpants. This advice is reciprocal: your spouse should make a concerted effort to win you over again and again.
Go easy on yourselves
It’s acceptable to accept that not every day will be great or even excellent. Let’s talk about the flaws and the annoyances. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Marriage, according to the ancient saying, is a marathon, not a sprint. Some days will feel like an obstacle course, with you carrying your spouse up a mountain and through a mud hole. Obsessing over whether or not you have a solid marriage or if you’re doing everything “right” is a particular route to failure. This is something tribal women in Kenya and Tanzania says. They said they took older women’s counsel — their marital mentors — and accepted that they wouldn’t learn everything about being a wife in a day.
The essential lesson, learned as a newlywed about surviving or fulfill a first essential year of marriage is that your wedding is unlike anybody else’s. It’s possible that what works for someone else won’t work for you. Take the advice and counsel of those you care about and trust, and then forge your way. You have complete control over your own happily ever after.